Tim Paine believes his sexting scandal was the result of his “inflated ego” as a test cricketer, but admits he still doesn’t know why he did it.
The text exchange included an unsolicited “picture of his genitals and” graphic sexual comments, which she complained seven months later.
The married father of two was investigated and acquitted of wrongdoing by Cricket Australia in 2018 when he confessed to his wife Bonnie that he had sexed a Cricket Tasmania employee for 18 hours.
But the matter was kept secret for three years until the news was released on Friday afternoon and Paine tearfully resigned as the Australian captain.
Paine was hit on all sides for his behavior, but legendary spin bowler Shane Warne, no stranger to sex scandals himself, threw his support behind him.
Paine says he told his wife Bonnie (pictured) in mid-2018 after Cricket Tasmania and Cricket Australia investigated the incident between him and the young employee
Paine announced his retirement as captain in a statement Friday afternoon and held a press conference at 2:30 p.m. on Friday where he tearfully apologized
Paine admitted he didn’t know why he was having sex with the employee, but offered several theories to explain his behavior.
‘I struggle every day with,’ Why did I send these messages? ‘ Maybe it’s as simple as stupidity? Or an inflated ego? Or the feeling of being needed or wanted, to be flattering, ”the 36-year-old told the Herald Sun.
“Or that it was dangerous or daring? I don’t know, I’m not sure. But I know I wish I hadn’t, and it will be a lifetime of regrets that I did. ‘
Warne wrote in a column for the publication that people shouldn’t be too quick to judge Paine because “he’s only human”.
“I’m not judging him for this incident. Just because Tim is in public doesn’t mean he won’t make a mistake, ”he wrote.
“Athletes are people, they have feelings. Let’s stop judging. It is not our job to do that. ‘
Cricket legend Shane Warne has defended disgraced former Test captain Tim Paine after the 36-year-old became embroiled in a 2017 sexting scandal
Bonnie said she had “a lot of compassion” for her husband and said the couple had gotten over the matter, although at the time she was considering leaving him
Paine, who started the scandal with his wife Bonnie, said he would talk to the woman about cricket-related matters on a regular basis until one day it took a “flirtatious” turn.
“There was nothing unusual about that. But then a text was sent that was a little overt and it became a flirtatious exchange that should never have been, ”he said.
The former test captain said he informed his wife of the 2017 exchange as soon as it was announced to Cricket Tasmania in mid-2018, which rocked the foundations of their marriage.
“As soon as a complaint has been filed. I told her everything. I admitted all of this. Hard as it was, it was the best I’ve done, ”Paine said.
Bonnie said she had “a lot of compassion” for her husband and said the couple had overcome his betrayal, although at the time she was considering leaving him.
“I had mixed feelings and felt betrayed, and I felt hurt, angry and angry, I also had feelings of gratitude for being so honest with me. I thought OK, am I going? Or forgive and rebuild? I went for the latter, ”she told the Herald Sun.
“It was hard, he forgave me things and people have forgiven me in my past so I just felt guilty about Tim for trying and forgiving.”
Paine, who started the scandal with his wife Bonnie (pictured), said he would talk to the woman about cricket-related matters on a regular basis until one day it took a “flirtatious” turn
Paine, who led Australia to the ashes in England in 2019, announced his retirement as captain in a tearful press conference on Friday
Warne wrote a column on Sunday to defend Paine’s character.
“It was sad to see what happened on so many levels last Friday and the circumstances under which Tim was forced to resign. I really feel for him about what he’s going through and what his family is going through, ”he wrote in the Herald Sun.
“Let’s put it in perspective for just a moment. It happened four years ago and a full investigation by Cricket Australia gave him permission to take over the captaincy. His family was with him then and now. ‘
The saga got even darker on Sunday when Paine’s brother-in-law Shannon Tubb also reportedly sent lewd messages to the same woman.
Warne (pictured with ex-fiancé Liz Hurley) wrote a column on Sunday to defend Paine’s character
Paine’s brother-in-law Shannon Tubb (pictured) also reportedly sent lewd messages to the same woman
Tubb, who is married to Paine’s sister, was investigated by Cricket Tasmania in mid-2018 after the board investigated the incident with the former test captain.
Paine was allowed to stay with the team, but Tubb was resigned from his position as assistant coach for Tasmania because of his alleged actions.
Tubb refused to comment on the alleged news when asked by the Herald Sun.
Paine issued a statement on Friday afternoon, announcing his retirement as captain, and holding a press conference at 2:30 p.m. on Friday at which he tearfully apologized.
“It’s an incredibly difficult decision, but the right one for me, my family and cricket,” he said.
Tim and Bonnie Paine have been together for over 10 years and have two children, a son named Charlie and a daughter named Milla
The woman at the center of the scandal was a Tasmania Cricket employee Paine knew from playing state cricket.
She sent a letter of complaint to Cricket Australia and Cricket Tasmania in 2018 – which sparked an investigation – and also wrote to the Australian Human Rights Commission about the texts.
The woman said she was offended by “Mr. Paine’s sexually explicit, unwelcome and uninvited picture of his genitals and his vivid sexual comments ”.
Cricket Tasmania said Friday the complaint only arose after the woman was charged with theft from the organization. The case is still in court.